Erica Clark – Assistant News Editor
Harambee, a multicultural student group focused on promoting cultural and social awareness of African and Caribbean students, held an event discussion Monday night in Gaige Auditorium with the co-authors of “Becoming A Couple of Destiny: Living, Loving and Creating A Life That Matters” Bishop Joseph Walker III and his Wife, Dr. Stephanie Walker.
Joseph Walker is highly renowned for being the charismatic pastor of Mt. Zion Baptist Church located in Nashville, Tennessee. His wife, Steph, is a former Assistant Professor of Neonatology at Vanderbilt University.
The overall theme of Monday night’s discussion was the question, “What makes a relationship work?”
When most people are asked that question they think loyalty, consistency, honesty. Though, in the simple words of the couple, “Because if you know, you know.”
Bishop Joe and Dr. Steph bring the audience into detail on why they think we can’t be selfish with who is brought into our lives.
“We are never brought together by our own pursuits,” said Dr. Steph, who believes she met Bishop Joe to come together to inspire people about religion and their book.
The Walkers started their discussion on perspectives of women in relationships and the expectations they have, comparing it to being a little girl playing with Barbies.
“When you play, you idolize the idea of a white picket fence, a dress… Then there’s Ken.”
Women going into relationships, overall, mature at a faster rate than men, especially in their early 20s. This is a time in many women’s lives they realize how different men are wired.
The Walkers also discussed the reality many college students deal with on a daily basis—seeing and creating images online that are not based in reality.
“When you meet a person who is not serious about perception, they begin at integrity” Dr. Steph made the audience conscious of how much work it truly takes to understand someone’s reality, that isn’t always easy to relate to.
One thing that many college students find it difficult to bear with is the lack of commitment in 21st-century relationships.
Though, The Walkers recited how important it is to work towards yourself and when you find that self, you will come together when you find that purpose.
The Walkers specified the theme of what you are looking for, is looking for you. As some people may not have faith in this statement or have lost hope, Joe and Steph also express that, “It’s not always bad to wait. Don’t feel pressured in the wait. I’m waiting while I’m still grinding.”
“It can be your time, but not your turn” Bishop Joe said shortly after relating the idea of waiting for something to happen that you are unsure of.
“There is a reason and a season for relationships” Bishop Joe pitched, hearing the audience filled with snaps, claps and woo’s of breath.
The Walkers gave the advice to people in the audience listening in their 20s to “Take your time, and give yourself room.” The whole idea of once you realize it is not about you, it forces you to keep going. Each one of us, as human beings, can determine what we want, and respect each other’s perspectives.
It was also emphasized the importance of, during heartbreak, to make sure you’re healing correctly. “Always deal with isolation in community” Bishop Joe uttered. The process of giving yourself time to heal helps us transform into a better understanding of self. “Once you know who you are and your worth, it will dictate how everyone will treat you.”